Why did I start this blog?

I got frustrated with just coaching one person at a time or having an impact on a group of people I presented for but then never seeing them again. It's all kind of like eating just one bite of a chocolate cheesecake --and then dumping the rest in the trash.

This is Our Space for Life Transformation

I want this to be our ongoing space for transformation, a space where we can share struggles and successes and coach YOU to create what you hunger for in your personal and professional life. I'd like to help you find and live your BLISS!

What are the biggest challenges and obstacles to your prosperity and fulfillment? What makes you feel out of whack, off kilter, and out of sorts? What keeps you from feeling like a success in every area of your life? What is the biggest thorn in your derriere? (That was tactfully put, wasn't it?)

Send Me Your Questions About Leading a Prosperous and Balanced Life

Please send your questions and challenges! You can post them here or you can email them to me at barnsley@spirited-solutions.com. (Don't forget the dash in the middle, okay?) I'll choose one or two per week to feature.

Please include your first name or initials, town or city, state, and country. Then stay tuned to our blog for the answer to your question or issue. While some issues I may stay away from, like tax laws (and you should thank me for that because it is bor--ing!), I am committed to helping you find your way to a balanced and successful life.

I will give you a forthright, real-life answer that provides a GBK (Gentle Butt Kick) moving you forward to the life of your dreams!

In case you're wondering, yes I do believe you can live the life of your dreams and make a livelihood doing what you love. I do it every day and so can you! I look forward to sharing what does and doesn't work for both of us--Feel free to take what makes sense and jettison the rest.

I'm here to help you have the kick-butt life of your dreams, so hey, let's get started!

Let me know what's pestering YOU!

To your success,


Dr. Barnsley


Happiness, Gratitude, and Positive Psychology: The Perfect Valentine All Year Round

07 February 2013 ~ 0 Comments

It’s always good to turn to major holidays for inspiration. As I’m writing this, it’s the month of February and that means candy hearts, greeting cards, and more chocolate than you can eat in a month (but that never stops us from trying, now does it?). It’s the season for valentines, and though we might only […]

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Reduce Stress: Five Boundaries You Must Set To De-Stress Part 5

27 December 2012 ~ 0 Comments

Do you feel like you need to section off an area with velvet ribbon (or heck, barb wire) in order to get the things done that you need to get done? Then you need to set boundaries. How can you tell if you need to be more vigilant with setting boundaries? Are you antsy, irritated, […]

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Reduce Stress: Five Boundaries You Must Set To De-Stress Part 4

13 December 2012 ~ 0 Comments

Hi again!  How are the holidays treating you?  Are you feeling Grinchy?  Do you want to hire a hitman for the crazy-making people around you? Guess what?  This blog post will help you NOT off your crazy-making cubicle mate, boss, spouse, or in-laws.   As much as we like you, no one wants to bring you […]

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Reduce Stress: Five Boundaries You Must Set To De-Stress Part 3

06 December 2012 ~ 0 Comments

The holiday season is certainly here in all its glittering, twinkling, oh so shiny glory! Everything is full of  holiday cheer, but are you feeling a bit like Scrooge in the midst of it all?  Do you feel overwhelmed, like you’re driving around in circles with an outdated GPS that keeps telling you, “Go to […]

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Dealing With Difficult People: Slay Energy Vampires This Halloween!

25 October 2012 ~ 0 Comments

Still trying to figure out what you’re going to be for Halloween?  How about Buffy, everyone’s favorite vampire slayer?  I’m sure you have some knee-high boots and a skirt left over from the nineties, right? In all seriousness, though, let’s talk about vampires.  No, not the “vampires” that sparkle; nor the ones that suck blood. […]

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Stop Procrastination: Slay This Business Beast Now

14 September 2012 ~ 0 Comments

It’s something we all do. Business owners and busy professionals, men and women, do it at work and at home. It’s the art of using tomorrow to put off today. It’s procrastination! Our Spirited contributors share their best strategies for keeping up with tomorrow today! Enjoy these Spirited Solutions to stop procrastination and be sure […]

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Reduce Stress: Five Boundaries You Must Set To De-Stress Part 2

30 August 2012 ~ 0 Comments

Are you still feeling overloaded, overworked, overtired, overtaxed, and under-appreciated?  Do you still feel like your plate is not only full but  cracking under pressure?  Are you even happy? You just might be suffering from lack of boundaries.  How can you tell if you need to be more vigilant with setting boundaries? You’re antsy, irritated, […]

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Reduce Stress: Five Boundaries You Must Set to De-Stress Part 1

16 August 2012 ~ 0 Comments

  Most people these days feel overloaded, overworked, overtired, over-everything! Not only are our plates full, but we’re about to drop everything on the floor.  May I suggest that boundaries are the key to regaining your energy, your peace of mind, and your productivity? Think about it. If you’re going in a million directions trying […]

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Serving Others to Bring Happiness, Spiritual Health, and Wealth

12 July 2012 ~ 0 Comments

What are you up to this summer? Are you lazing around indoors trying to avoid the heat? If you are, I’d like to give you one of my patented GBKs (gentle butt kick) and tell you to get out there and do something with your time, lest you get as stagnant as the summer heat.  […]

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Celebrate Father’s Day Whether Giving Thanks or Mourning a Loss

13 June 2012 ~ 0 Comments

This is a little personal.  Indulge me, would you? This morning I woke up with tears streaming down my cheeks.  I went to the bathroom to grab my toothbrush and the tears were still flowing…right down the sink along with my Tom’s of Maine mint toothpaste. Why? I had a pretty palpable dream last night […]

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